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 in response to milesrf...   

Thank you so much for the sites.   Mom is a type two and takes metformin and insulin injections.    Thank you for the information about the starch.  I didn't realize this.   I am going to minimize the starch and see how that helps.  

Let me share with you something else that has really benefited Mom; Cinnamon.   I put a tablespoon of cinnamon in her sugar free/caffine free hotchocolate in the morning and over the past year she has gone from 20 units a day to 4 units.

I am glad that your assisted living is putting in a day program.  There should be one in every city and town in America.   I really like assisted living facilities as well.   Nursing Home should always be the last resort, if at all.   There are so many senior out their that can have a full and happy life and continue to live at home, if more centers were available.   Not everyone can afford to have in home care.  The bigger problem is that many also can not afford to pay for day care or assisted living.

In my plan, I intend to keep two little online companys that will serve as contractors to the daycare.  These buisiness are up and running now and helping me to raise seed money for the daycare.   Once the daycare is up and running and able to stand alone, I am keeping these nonprofits running to help raise money for special grants for the needy who can't afford the services.

I think that there is a lot that we can do, if we all put our hearts and minds to it.   As far as not being able to send money, don't even think about it.    I wouldn't take it if you sent it.   Your care is expensive and you shouldn't ever send money to anyone over the internet.  

Knowlege is as good as money.  Today I learned something from you that I didn't know.  That's the beauty of our senior community, you guys have so much to share with us and you are our blessing.

Tell me about your facility.  How do you like it.   I am originally from Alabama and it is a beautiful state and the people are just wonderful.   I have been in Georgia for many years now and it is my home now.  You just can't beat the south for comfort and charm.   

Can you share with me some of the activities they plan for you.   I am very interested in hearing from you.   Would you mind if I shared some of my ideas with you?   Your input would help me make a lot of mistakes.   I want to design an activities program that is really fun and enjoyable for adults between 60 and 80.

I am glad you found me and I hope to hear from you very soon.

Hope:)

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 in response to whoknew...   

You are so right.   It is true that I was the black sheep, but I was very comfortable in my own wool.   But I got to tell ya, this responsible stuff is for the birds.   I really miss the freedom of being the black sheep. LOL.

At the end of the day, I am happy with me.   When all is said and done, I will be at peace and greatful for the opportunity that I was given.   This journey has taught me many things.

I have learned to be happy with less.   I have learned that true value is found in the quality of the people you let in your life.  I have learned to like my Mom and respect the life she lived. Most of all, I know what it is like to be really loved by someone, because they love you, not because they need something from you.

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 in response to kiki7...   

Contact a the social worker in your local hospital.   Many of the C.N.A.'s do side work and will take cash.  

Better check those references.   A lot of people this kind of work on the side for cash.   That doesn't mean that your loved one will get the best care and might actually get hurt by someone who is not trained or experienced in the job.

Check nursing homes, hospitals, and advertise for an independent C.N.A.

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 in response to grandma2400...   Grandma, please keep me updated on your progress and how I can help.
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 in response to whoknew...   

Thanks, but I need to tell you; I haven't always been a wonderful daughter.   I am and was a daddy's girl.   Mom and I have been at odds my entire life.   

I describe myself as the black sheep of the family, never quite as successful in business or marriage, wild as the wind, and I march to a completely different drum.  Believe you me, my brother and sister let me know it.   I have been the conversation at many a dinner table.    But here is the thing, I am comfortable in my own wool.   I miss being the black sheep, it was a heck of a lot more fun that this girl that I have become.    But here is the thing, regardless of what hair ball I coughed up, the one thing I could depend on was Mom.   

I thought this would be the one thing that I could give to everyone.   I was only a gift for Mom.   I am just Steve and Barbara's patsy.   All of my life, I have been their doormat.   I a sign on my back that says, "Thank you" on one side and you flip me over and it says, "Thank you, come again".  

Thank you for your information, I am adding this to my reference book.   Guys, all of this direction and information is money in the bank.   Thank you so much.

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 in response to Schmidty...   

Someone responded to me :)  Thanks for all of this information and the chuckle.   No, I am not a crime boss.   I just have never put my story out and not sure what I would do if someone said, OK, I'll invest.  

We just have to make changes and fast.   If I am going to change my career, I want to make sure that in my next professional life, I do something that matters and leave something behind when I go. 

You are right about money.   It has not been a friend to this family.   I will tell you that although, I am making a fraction of what I once made, we are getting by and I am happier in the health care field than anything that I have ever done.

I am passionate about serving and protecting the elderly.  My God, if this could happen in my family, it could happen in any family.  

Here is the message that I want to put out to anyone out there who is going to transfer property inorder to shelter it from medicade: make sure that you preserve a life's interest in that property!

Thanks for all this information Schmidty.   I am building a reference library and will keep you posted on my progress.   Maybe this will work, maybe it won't.   I know one thing for sure, nothing will happen if I don't give this a shot.  

I can hear my father telling me that it is OK to fail, it is just not OK to try.   

As far as the business, here is where I am right now.    I have finished the business plans and feasibility studies.   I have the names reserved and am in the process of incorporation.   Websites for the seed companies should go up in the next four weeks.

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Grandma,

I am on it.   Can you travel?   The reason that I am asking is that there are a couple of free options in Atlanta.   Sounds like you may need surgery.   I know that Emory has free services.  Emory is an excellent hospital and it is a great teaching hospital. 

I will make some phone calls tomorrow.    Of course, you should have dentures.  

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I hate putting my story out here, but here it goes.

My Mother is the sweetest thing in the world.  Just your typical little southern mother.  She will be 80 soon.    Our parents were the best parents in the world and they gave us a great childhood.   

So tell me how it is that my sister would steal her home and my brother would clean out every dime of her assets?   Mother has moderate to sever dementia, coronary heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure.   Mother lived in Alabama and I showed up unexpectedly and found her in critical condition.   After she was released from the emergency room, I took her home with me to recouperate.   While she was with me, my little sister packed up everything she owned and sold it to a flea market for $500 and rented out her house.  She had no place to go except a nursing home.   I brought her home with me.   That was three years ago.

To make matters worse, in 2009, Barbara was tried and covicted to 40 years for stealing half a million dollars from her employer.  Get this, she only has to serve three of it and is actually up for parole this august after serving only one year.   It seems that she wasn't a CPA as we thought, just a thief and a con artist.  

I promised Mom that I would never put her in a nursing home.   So I went from making 54,000 a year to making less than $14,000.   So far, I have been able to pay my bills; God knows how, but I have.   I have always been frugal and had a little bit of money set aside.   That is all gone now and I really scared.    But I am resourceful and smart.

I needed to learn how to take care of Mom so I went back to school to get my C.N.A and P.C.T. license which lets me work part time on the weekend in our community hospital.   It isn't much, but after my unemployoment ran out, I needed something to help out.   We are just barely getting by on Mom's little monthly pension.    Through it all, I found my calling and am pursing my nursing degree starting this fall.   My career as I knew it is gone.   If I am going to start over again, I need for my work to mean something and I will need to be able to make a good living because all of my savings are gone.   Nursing will let me take care of Mom and rebuild my life.   The only obstacle that I have is day care expense for Mom.  Believe you me, it is a lot more expensive that childcare.

Mother's story is horrible, but believe it or not, it isn't the worst one that I have heard.   The nursing homes are full of patients who could have aged in place in their own homes, if resources were available.    There are people just like me who need and want to work, but can't because there is no one who is able to take care of their Mom or Dad.  Some end up putting them in nursing homes because there is no other place or option available. 

This is why I am going to start an adult day care facility in my home town.   It will enable me to work full time and know that Mom is well cared for.   But more importantly, it will provide a valuable service to the community and our elder citizens.  The most vulnerable of all are the the elderly and children.

I have a solid plan and a staff of LPN's and C.N.A.'s ready to get on board, but of course, I have 32 cents in my pocket.    So yes, I am asking for money.   I need fifty thousand dollars to start and with only a half staff and patients, this money could be paid back in a year, but I could only pay 7% interest.   I don't want to borrow anything for longer than a year. 

On my end, I am starting an online bakery and drapery business to raise money.   I have already set the business up and in about a year, I should have established enough business credit to get convential financing.  

So on the off chance that someone would like to invest or make a gift, I need your help.  I can't do this on my own.   Please email me with your phone number or email address and we can talk further.   Please note, don't ask me to travel or send collateral, I won't do it.   You will have to come here and I won't meet you alone.    

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